Freaky Friday Crazy Idea: Stop to Notice

We rush through our days, rushing to put out one fire after another. We tell ourselves that we don’t have time to slow down.

But here is a crazy idea. What if we just stopped and took time to notice. We might just find the solution we are seeking.

Freaky Far Out Friday is a weekly post by that features crazy ideas that just might solve your persistent problem.

You know them. They are the individuals who have bring their laptops or tablets to every meeting and are always typing. They claim they are listening but they are replying to emails and doing other tasks. They are not completely engaged.

They are also the managers who call us into their office but focus only on their computer, neglecting eye contact with us because they are typing emails. They tell us to continue as they can multi-task. Yeah right. They are not listening and are not fully engaged. Interestingly enough, they wonder why we are not engaged.

Then there is that person manager who walks through the office each morning with the sole intent to see who is at work and who is not. They don’t really care about you or me. They just want to make sure your butt is in that seat. They also wonder why people leave.

Now notice the individual who gives the meeting their full attention. They purposely stop what they are doing and focus on you. They notice how your appearance, even noticing some small detail that has changed (in a good way.) They listen to your vocal inflections and the sparkle in your eyes (or the lack of it.) In other words, they notice your pain and your passion. Then they ask how they can help you be more successful. In the end, you sense they are fully engaged with you and are committed to helping you alleviate any problem you have.

Notice how much better you feel with that last manager. Notice how willing you are to give the extra effort and go the extra mile.

Notice how the three earlier examples create problems while the last one fosters collaboration that solves problems.

This week’s crazy idea is to simply stop.

  • Stop and take time to notice the other person in the conversation.
  • Stop and give them the attention you would ask of them.
  • Stop and notice something valuable about them.
  • Stop and notice their pain.
  • Then stop and take the time to help them alleviate that pain.

The wise old sage said there is a time for everything. Yes, business demands that we take action and many times that means to keep moving forward. However, many times solving the significant problems is best accomplished by stopping and noticing.

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  • Mind Shift Monday features a powerful quote that sets the tone for a week of innovative thinking.
  • Thinking Bigger Tuesday expands on the topic and provides pillar content of innovative thinking.
  • Why Not Wednesday introduces you to books, articles and research that I have found useful in solving significant problems with innovative thinking.
  • Transformational Thursday explores a TED Talk on the topic of the week. These talks are likely taken from the ones I have featured in my TED Talk Think Tank mastermind for radical change over the last five years.
  • Freaky Far Out Friday features crazy ideas that just might solve your persistent problem.

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Loren Murfield, Ph.D.

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