This year has the potential to be the best Thanksgiving ever. It will be great to get together with our loved ones to celebrate after missing last year.
However, there are still many obstacles to overcome and conflicts to resolve. Airports and roads will be crowded. Rental cars will be expensive and scarce. That is bad enough but then we have more and more people getting impatient and angry.
How can we pivot this situation to create a great opportunity?
Those that follow me know I write about thinking bigger and reaching higher to realize your breakthrough success. I help aspiring and emerging leaders make one pivot and create the habit of pivotal success.
In this post, you will find 3 questions (and a few other questions) that will pivot your perspective to make this Thanksgiving one of the best ever. But more than that, this same process is perfect for the workplace, whether you are an executive or employee, manager or supervisor, sales or engineer, marketing or manufacturing, human resources or or I.T. Managing conflict is critical to all of our success.
First, ask yourself: What significant pivot have I made this year?
In the middle of any potential problem, it is good to stop and think. Thanksgiving is a day to be grateful for what we have, not focus on what we want but don’t have.
To create the best opportunity, shift your thinking by changing how you see the events. The critical point is that you CHOOSE YOUR PERSPECTIVE. You can’t change the crowds or the cost of the car rentals. However, you can put them into perspective.
Shift your perspective by being grateful. Ask yourself, “What significant pivot have I made this year?”
Think back to a change that you made that you are thankful for.
Notice that this significant pivot is something you wanted and then worked to get. It could be a job, a pay raise, a relationship, getting in shape, or any number of accomplishments. But notice, it is not something someone else gave you. You were the agent of change. You made it happen.
What is that significant pivot?
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Second, ask yourself: How did you do it?
To make that pivot, you took some action. But how did you do it?
- What action did you take?
- How did you shift your attitude to make it happen?
- What knowledge did you acquire to make that pivot?
- What skills did you apply or hone to take the action?
Third, ask yourself: How can I apply what I learned today?
You are now mindful of how you improved your life this year.The next step is to apply what you learned earlier in the year to this weekend.
Beyond the problems of crowded travel or expensive cars, there will be other dicey moments. You might be tempted to be irritated with:
- A meddling mother or mother-in-law,
- A controling father,
- A snoopy aunt,
- An argumentative uncle,
- An annoying nephew, or
- A number of other people who rub you the wrong way.
The key to pivoting in those situations is to shift your perspective and transform your thinking. Instead of letting them get the best of you, remind yourself what it took to pivot through your earlier challenge.
For example, I write plays and screenplays and have learned an important lesson from resolving conflict between quirky characters.
When in a potentially irritating situation, I shift my perspective to see it as a potential movie. Earlier this year, I had a situation that was so bizarre that I will use in in one of my next productions. I was hosting a program and made a fairly simple request of the facility. The individual not only declined but overreacted. Ok, they did far more. They walked away and threw what a southern friend of mine calls a “high speed come apart.”
Yikes. What do you do with that conflict?
I walked away quietly.
That may not sound like a great accomplishment. In that case avoidance was the perfect thing to do. I didn’t need to prove a point or anything else. I just needed to shut up, let them calm down and facilitate the meeting.
I also learned that I couldn’t go forward with that person or facility. But it goes much farther. I realized I had to pivot in other parts of my life. To do what I envision, I can’t go forward with certain people.
That was a difficult decision for me to make given my long history with that facility.
Sometimes we must speak up, other times we must simply shut up.
What lessons have you learned that you can use this Thanksgiving to pivot to your next great opportunity?
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THINK BIGGER – SEE THE OPPORTUNITIES
REACH HIGHER – DO THE WORK
DO THE IMPOSSIBLE – DARE TO REACH EVEN HIGHER THAN ANYONE EXPECTED
I am Dr. Loren Murfield, and I develop aspiring and emerging leaders pivot to their breakthrough success. Contact me today to begin your pivot. Contact me for your free, 20-minute strategy session.
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