It all starts with a simple question.
What do you want?
In this post, we will discuss why asking that simple question makes the Pivotal difference. The beginning of any breakthrough success is setting goals. The problem for many comes in setting their goals to low. Let’s challenge ourselves with what we ultimately want, not what we need to survive.
Those that follow me know I write about pivoting to your next great opportunity. In the process, I encourage you to think bigger and reach higher to realize your breakthrough success. I work with aspiring and emerging leaders to make one pivot and then create the pivotal strategic habit in a rapidly and radically changing world. As leaders, executives, entrepreneurs, or employees, as we improve our ability to make S.M.A.R.T. decisions and avoid S.T.U.P.I.D. mistakes, we will seize great opportunities sooner. In the end, I help individuals and organizations get what they ultimately want by making the impossible a reality.
What do you want?
I love asking my clients, “What do you want?”
Even more, I enjoy seeing their nonverbal response.
A client sat across from me. Let’s call him Brian. This was our first coaching session so he was in business mode and quickly answered as most would expect.
“I want a 10% increase in my business this year.
“That’s nice. But do you ultimately want?”
“What do you mean?” he responded as I probed beyond the stereotypical business coach question.
“What’s your dream?” Again, he struggled with the untypical business language.
“What do you really want out of life?” I nudged him further.
With that, his eyes lit up, his body relaxed, and he sat back. Best of all, he beamed a great, big smile.
“Now I know what you mean.” From there he detailed a vision that eclipsed his current frustrations.
Everything we worked on over the next couple of years was anchored in this simple, but powerful questions. Ultimately, he achieved what he wanted.
Pivotal Break Throughs go far beyond the workplace to your dreams and passions. After all, very few of us live to work. Instead, we work so we can live the way we ultimately want.
That freedom is center to our success.
Are you living to work or are you working to live?
There is no right answer.
Those that love to work find their passion and enjoyment in the workplace. Entrepreneurs love the excitement of bringing a dream to fruition. It is their quest. I admire that.
Those that love their independence away from work enjoy recreational activities ranging from sitting on the couch to hiking the Appalachian trail, from spending time with family to honing a new hobby.
In either case, passion is at the center of our ultimate success.
So when I ask, “What do you want?” I’m asking to help you identify your passion.
The Hidden Gem
To make our Pivotal Break Through, we benefit from tapping that gusher of passion. That passion is our hidden energy that will push us to think deeper so we can reach higher.
Without tapping that passion, we are disengaged to some degree. We don’t take the initiative because the work we are currently doing or the organization we are working in doesn’t tap our passion. Instead, when we engage that passion, then we want to be involved and give our ultimate effort.
Passion fuels success. It is what gets us out of bed, off the couch, and into action. It is what powers our Pivotal Break Through.
- What is your passion?
- What do you want in your personal life?
- What do you want in your professional life?
The Hidden Problem
Notice I didn’t begin by asking, “What do you need?” This question, when asked first, limits our perspective and we have difficulty thinking beyond the minimum.
However, by beginning with, “What do I want?” we remove the limitations to see exciting possibilities.
As I’ve said before, impossible simply means we don’t have access to the resources we need. “What do you need?” is an important question to be asked later.
The critical question at this point is to identify what we ultimately want.
What do you ultimately want?
To answer that question, let’s being by shifting our perspective.
First, shift your perspective. Put 2020 and 2021 behind. Purposely look forward.
Don’t complain about how disappointing those years were. Focus on the opportunities ahead, not the current or past frustrations.
Second, identify your passion(s). What is most important to you.
Third, what do you want your life to look like by December 31 of 2022?
If you fail to identify what you want, you will get what the world decides to give you. Don’t be passive. Ask the world for the level of success you ultimately want.
“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store;
For Life is just an employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.
I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have paid.”
― Jessie B. Rittenhouse
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I am Dr. Loren Murfield, and I develop aspiring and emerging leaders pivot to their breakthrough success. Contact me today to begin your pivot.
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