Everyone hates pain, right?
But what if I told you that once we pivot our perspective, we may see that pain is the key to our ultimate success?
With this post, I’m beginning a short series of blog posts about pain. It’s not that I love pain, but that pain is a pivotal point for anyone looking to think bigger, reach higher, and achieve their ultimate success.
Those that follow me know that I’m passionate about living 100% alive. Whether you are an executive, entrepreneur, or employee, that means we are willing to disrupt ourselves and the world around us. Our goal is a collaborative venture that makes the world a better place. That’s why I’m an executive coach working with entrepreneurs and leaders in real estate, sales, and business. To create disruptive innovation and our ultimate success, we must pivot through our pain.
NOTE: In discussing pain, readers should NOT assume this means inflicting pain on others as a leader, manager, supervisor or individual. Instead, this post addresses the natural process of pain in the process of thinking bigger and reaching higher. No unnecessary pain for someone’s selfish satisfaction is warranted.
What is Pain?
Pain is defined as “Pain is an uncomfortable feeling that tells you something may be wrong.
It can be steady, throbbing, stabbing, aching, pinching, or described in many
other ways. Sometimes, it’s just a nuisance, like a mild headache. Other times
it can be debilitating. (JohnsHopkins Medicine)
I like to think of pain as Problems Attempting to Interrupt us Now. (P.A.I.N.)
Notice that pain isn’t necessarily permanent. It is an attempt to paralyze us from reaching our ultimate potential.
Anyone seeking to change their lives for the better will experience pain. They (we) must work through the pain of change, because pain is part of the change. If change didn’t involve pain, we would all welcome it.
Pain for those seeking to live their dreams, exceed their expectations, or live 100% alive must make a very challenging choice. We must go from the civilization of our thinking to the wilderness.
You have read that before in my blogs and books.
Civilization has three critical components.
It is predictable, safe, and comfortable.
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The Pain of Predictability
Once we know it is predictable, we can consider the risks and create a successful strategy. If A then B. Simple, right? With that predictability, success is safe option and we are comfortable in that situation.
But the wilderness isn’t predictable. If it was, it wouldn’t be the wilderness because it would be crowded with civilization.
If we never enter into unpredictability, we will never take the risks necessary to reach our potential.
The Pain of Safe
We all enjoy a safe environment where there is no threat to our success. That security handcuffs many, seducing us with the ordinary when the ultimate is available. Those safe in what they have done, knowing who they are, and what they believe is important, never grow.
Muhamad Ali said, “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.”
“The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.”
Notice how that quote defies the notion of playing it safe.
To live up to our potential, we must continue learning and growing. That is risky. Failure will happen and be painful. But, if we are persistent, that initial failure will lead to our ultimate success.
The Pain of Comfortable
Pain isn’t comfortable. Normally we do whatever we can to avoid pain.
But the person determined to develop disruptive innovation in their own life or in the world, recognizes that they must become comfortable with being uncomfortable. They willingly engage pain to push themselves farther.
Excuse or Incentive Pain
Frustrations can give us an excuse to quit or an incentive to think bigger and reach higher. My childhood years as a chore boy and later as a warehouse worker frustrated me but I used that pain to
eventually earn my Ph.D., teach college, and then open my coaching practice.
Thinking Bigger and Reaching Higher to do what we ultimately want often requires working through pain. It may be the pain of discomfort, or the pain of living with uncertainty, or the pain of relearning what we thought we knew. Pain can’t be seen as a barrier but rather a threshold. Work through the initial pain to enjoy the eventual paradise.
Destructive or Productive Pain
The critical point of this post is to show you a choice that you face every day. Do you see any pain or discomfort as destructive or productive.
Destructive is when pain threatens our well-being.
Productive, on the other hand, is discomfort that pushes us to the next level.
Pivot your perspective. See pain as an indicator of your ultimate potential. Whether as an individual, entrepreneur, or executive, pivot to see how pain points us to our ultimate potential.
Contact me for your FREE 20-minute Coaching Call.
THINK BIGGER – SEE THE OPPORTUNITIES
REACH HIGHER – DO THE WORK
DO THE IMPOSSIBLE – DARE TO REACH EVEN HIGHER THAN ANYONE EXPECTED
I am Dr. Loren Murfield, and I develop aspiring and emerging leaders pivot to their breakthrough success. Contact me today to begin your pivot.
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